MFTP Episode 34: Proud Imperfectionist with Ryan Glassmoyer

MFTP Episode 34: Proud Imperfectionist with Ryan Glassmoyer

It’s no surprise that we talk a lot around here about what it means to be a perfectionist, so we’re switching things up today with our guest, Ryan Glassmoyer, who is a coach, workshop facilitator, and self-proclaimed proud imperfectionist. And because anxiety and perfectionism are closely linked, Ryan schools us on using self-love, personal responsibility, and mindfulness to build new habits, reduce + manage our anxiety, and turn down the volume on the chaos in our lives.

MFTP Episode 31: Mr. Grey Will See You Now

MFTP Episode 31: Mr. Grey Will See You Now

Uncertainty, unpredictability, ambiguity, doubt… More than the goriest horror movie, these gray area situations can strike fear in heart of many a recovering perfectionist. 😱 As perfectionists, we tend to gravitate toward structure and rules as a way to keep ourselves “safe,” and our preference for certainty can suck us deep into the trap of black and white thinking.

MFTP Episode 30: The Upside of Perfectionism

MFTP Episode 30: The Upside of Perfectionism

Perfectionism clearly gets a bad rap around here at Middle Finger to Perfection, and we tend to talk a lot about the struggles and downsides of perfectionism, people pleasing, and worthiness seeking, but are there good things about being a perfectionist? Today, Ashley and I shine some light on the positive side effects and hidden benefits of perfectionism. Welcome to the perfectionist hype hour! 🙌

MFTP Episode 29: Be Humble?

MFTP Episode 29: Be Humble?

Are confidence and humility mutually exclusive, or can they coexist peacefully? For many of us recovering perfectionists and people pleasers, humble is our default setting, maybe even too humble. What happens, though, when we start to notice the subtle and not-so-subtle downsides to making ourselves smaller and less important? How can we start to build confidence and -- gasp! -- maybe even step into some swagger? Turn your 🎧 up to find out.

MFTP Episode 28: Saying Yes to Imperfection with Sarah Von Bargen

MFTP Episode 28: Saying Yes to Imperfection with Sarah Von Bargen

It’s probably not news to you that one of our favorite mantras around here is imperfect and enough. So, it’s probably also not surprising that we love the quote, “Perfect is the enemy of good.” Today’s guest, Sarah Von Bargen, is all about saying yes to doing things imperfectly and letting that be good enough. Through her wildly popular blog, Yes and Yes, she spreads the word that things don’t have to be perfect, they just have to be something.

MFTP Episode 27: Dream Bigger

MFTP Episode 27: Dream Bigger

As recovering perfectionists, we’re so easily tempted by endless dreaming and scheming only to come up with every excuse not to take action.

‘My dream is too big. It’ll take too much time, too much work, too much money. I have no idea how to make it happen, and look at all the other people out there who are already doing it better than I ever could.’

MFTP Episode 26: “Perfect” Relationships are Toxic

MFTP Episode 26: “Perfect” Relationships are Toxic

No matter how much our rational brain knows that “perfect” relationships are a mythical unicorn (i.e., they don’t exist 🦄😭), our perfectionist brain inevitably tries to convince us that if we work really hard and do allllllll the right things, we’ll be able to ride that unicorn off into the sunset. But relationships are tough enough. We certainly don’t need toxic perfectionism creeping in and eating away at them.

MFTP Episode 25: Epic Fail

MFTP Episode 25: Epic Fail

Failure is such a freaking loaded term, and so many of us recovering perfectionists live in fear of it, desperately trying to avoid it at all costs. But in running from failure, we rob ourselves of so much goodness + joy along the way. Does failure really have to be such a bad thing? Is there a way for us to stop demonizing it...and maybe even start to embrace it? 😱 In this mini episode, we explore the concept of reframing failure (and success) and learning to see it as information, feedback, and maybe even a good thing.

MFTP Episode 24: Bikini Body BS

MFTP Episode 24: Bikini Body BS

With all the goodness of summer in full swing comes the familiar frenetic energy around bikinis and “beach bodies.” I’m sorry, what?? Ashley + I are so over all of this bikini body BS. It really brings down our summer vibes and completely conflicts with one of our favorite life mottos: Have body, wear bikini (or whatever the eff else you want).

MFTP Episode 23: Can Procrastination Be Positive?

MFTP Episode 23: Can Procrastination Be Positive?

As recovering perfectionists, we’re all too familiar with the other P, procrastination. We often think of procrastination as a bad thing and a major impediment to productivity, but is there such a thing as “healthy procrastination”? In today’s mini episode, we’re talking all about procrastination -- what it is, why we do it, and how it gets in the way of feeling good + getting what we really want in life.

MFTP Episode 20: Overcoming Imposter Syndrome with Naomi Alon

MFTP Episode 20: Overcoming Imposter Syndrome with Naomi Alon

Have you ever felt like you were the only one who didn’t have their sh*t together, or like a complete fraud about the life you were living? Hands raised. If you’ve ever felt like your work isn’t good enough, or doubted your ability to succeed, or felt like you needed to “be someone else” in order to please the people around you, this episode is for you. In today’s episode Naomi Alon walks us through the steps to overcoming Imposter Syndrome so you can show up as yourself and live the life you were meant to live.

MFTP Episode 18: Creating a Life You Don’t Need a Vacation From

MFTP Episode 18: Creating a Life You Don’t Need a Vacation From

Do you often find yourself living for the weekend and counting down to your next vacation? Does every week inevitably start with the Sunday Scaries followed by the worst case of the Mondays ever? If you answered yes to either of these questions, you probably know that is no way to live. So, let me ask you one other little (HUGE) question: What if you were able to create a life you don’t need a vacation from? A life where vacations are a bonus, not an escape or a necessity in order to function.

MFTP Episode 17: Imperfect Productivity with Sarah Steckler

MFTP Episode 17: Imperfect Productivity with Sarah Steckler

Are you and your to do list in a relationship that could best be described as, “It’s complicated?” Or perhaps you’re in a serious LTR…? As recovering perfectionists, it’s so easy for us to fall into the trap of equating our worthiness with how much stuff we can get done in a day. I mean, what could be more rewarding than checking tasks off our lists, right??