MFTP Episode 55: I Am Not My Perfectionism with Leslie Kuny

MFTP Episode 55: I Am Not My Perfectionism with Leslie Kuny

Today’s guest has figured out the secret sauce for turning perfectionism into a force for good in her life and in the world without letting herself be defined by it. We are so excited to introduce you to OG Eff Perfect fam member and inspiration in human form, Leslie Kuny of West Coast Leslie Designs.

MFTP Episode 54: Quirks + Beauty Marks

MFTP Episode 54: Quirks + Beauty Marks

You know how when a famous, rich, and/or powerful person is odd, they’re often described as eccentric, whereas an average person with exactly the same habits might be described as weird or strange? Well, our theory is that when we like our perceived imperfections or they don’t bother us too  much, we describe them as quirks or idiosyncrasies instead of imperfections or flaws. Same exact thing with a different name and a completely different meaning, energy, and connotation.

MFTP Episode 52: We’re Quitters — and Proud of It

MFTP Episode 52: We’re Quitters — and Proud of It

You may have missed it, fam, but we recently passed Quitters’ Day, the day about two weeks into January when it’s said that most people quit their resolutions for the new year. So, we figured this was the ideal time to talk about why we’re quitters — and proud of it. We are all about quitting things that aren’t working for us, especially soul-sucking resolutions based on pushing and striving.

MFTP Episode 51: Let's Talk about Mental Health with Ghazal Ghaysar

MFTP Episode 51: Let's Talk about Mental Health with Ghazal Ghaysar

Today, we are so excited to highlight a topic we touch on often, the intersection of perfectionism and mental health, and we’ve brought in expert help in the form of Dr. Ghazal Ghaysar, Clinical Forensic Psychologist and Director of Clinical Communication of OOTify, a mental health marketplace powered by technology, content, and connection. Join us as we endeavor to create positive community and erase stigma around mental health.

MFTP Episode 49: 2018 → Year in Recovering Perfectionist Review

MFTP Episode 49: 2018 → Year in Recovering Perfectionist Review

Well, fam, we made it! Here we are, on the very last day of 2018, and there’s no way we’d rather spend it than with you. 🥳 Welcome to part one of our two part series reviewing the year that was and planning for the year to come. Let’s begin by taking stock of all the goodness and learning lessons of the past year to help us make the most of the next one.

MFTP Episode 48: Holiday Survival Guide for Perfectionists

MFTP Episode 48: Holiday Survival Guide for Perfectionists

You know we’re alllllllll about self-care around here, fam, and this time of year calls for an extra compassionate self-care plan. With the year coming to an end, winter upon us, and the holiday season in full swing for those who celebrate, we all need a little nudge to amp up the self-love. So, we’re here to share our survival guide for getting through this season or any season that’s more challenging than most.

MFTP Episode 44: The Trap of Worthiness Seeking

MFTP Episode 44: The Trap of Worthiness Seeking

What makes us worthy? Is it our positive qualities + traits, how much money we have in the bank, our job title, how productive we are, what others think of us, how much we weigh, what we look like, how big our house is?

Most of us spend our lives chasing these external metrics and alleged barometers of worth. But what if not a single one of those things could increase or decrease our worthiness in this world? What if worthiness was an inside job? True fact: It is. ✅

MFTP Episode 42: Wanna Fight??

MFTP Episode 42: Wanna Fight??

While some of us are drawn to conflict like a magnet, most of us recovering perfectionists and people pleasers avoid discord and fights at all costs. The mere concept of disagreement has us feeling overwhelmed and wanting to run full speed in the opposite direction. We don’t know what to do, what to say, how to keep from crying -- or worse, laughing -- at the most inappropriate times.

MFTP Episode 40: Expectation Hangover

MFTP Episode 40: Expectation Hangover

Productivity, income, career, weight + body shape, relationships… We perfectionists and recovering perfectionists are pros at setting unrealistically high expectations for ourselves and others in each of those areas and more. Living with high expectations is practically a perfectionist superpower. Whether applied to ourselves or those around us, our over the top expectations inevitably lead to disappointment, judgment, criticism, and anger. These expectations can cut down our self-esteem and self-worth, sabotage our relationships, and stand in the way of getting what we truly want.

MFTP Episode 39: Invisible → I’m Visible

MFTP Episode 39: Invisible → I’m Visible

How many of us are walking around this world every day in an invisibility cloak? Trying to take up as little space as possible -- literally and figuratively, staying safely within the boundaries of our comfort zones, and hoping no one really sees or notices us. Because if they did, they might notice our flaws, our eff ups, our shortcomings. The last thing most of us recovering perfectionists want to invite into our lives is more judgment, whether from ourselves or others, and visibility often means vulnerability.

MFTP Episode 37: Decisions, Decisions

MFTP Episode 37: Decisions, Decisions

From choosing what to have for dinner to planning our next career moves, making a decision can feel im-freaking-possible for us recovering perfectionists, people pleasers, and comparison junkies. We become paralyzed by allllllllll the options and by our desire to make the “perfect” choice so we can somehow miraculously avoid any possibility of failure or regret. We search for certainty and guarantees of success where none exist and often get stuck in endless surveying and outsourcing our decisions to others.