Expectation Hangover

Productivity, income, career, weight + body shape, relationships… We perfectionists and recovering perfectionists are pros at setting unrealistically high expectations for ourselves and others in each of those areas and more. Living with high expectations is practically a perfectionist superpower. Whether applied to ourselves or those around us, our over the top expectations inevitably lead to disappointment, judgment, criticism, and anger. These expectations can cut down our self-esteem and self-worth, sabotage our relationships, and stand in the way of getting what we truly want.

So, how do we avoid painful expectation hangovers? What are the expectation equivalents of a big glass of water and a couple of Tylenol before bed? In this week’s episode, we explore powerful ways to better set + manage our expectations and improve our relationship with expectations altogether.

MFTP Episode 40: Expectation Hangover


  • The trap of unrealistically high expectations of ourselves and others

  • What to do when unspoken expectations show up out of nowhere

  • Why our assumptions get us into trouble

  • The relationship between comparison and expectations

  • How to treat an expectation hangover


Expectation Hangover: Overcoming Disappointment in Work, Love, and Life book by Christine Hassler

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