While some of us are drawn to conflict like a magnet, most of us recovering perfectionists and people pleasers avoid discord and fights at all costs. The mere concept of disagreement has us feeling overwhelmed and wanting to run full speed in the opposite direction. We don’t know what to do, what to say, how to keep from crying — or worse, laughing — at the most inappropriate times.
This week, we’re exploring different types of conflict, the underlying fears that drive it, and what to do when we notice ourselves avoiding it.
HERE'S A SNEAK PEEK OF THE GOODNESS…
“People-pleasing and conflict avoidance go together like
peanut butter and jelly.”
“Avoiding conflict can be a way to avoid change or loss.”
“Conflict is unavoidable, and it’s an opportunity to problem-solve,
so if we’re avoiding conflict, we’re avoiding the problems in our relationships — and avoiding solving them.”
“If we’re avoiding conflict, we’re not giving ourselves the opportunity to develop the skills to manage conflict in the future.”
WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE…
The conflict continuum, including 4 different types of conflict
Three kinds of responses to conflict
Underlying fears that drive conflict
The negative effects of conflict avoidance
What to do when you notice yourself avoiding conflict
Share the Eff Perfect love with a fellow perfectionist, procrastinator, or people pleaser by hitting those buttons on the right, babe!
And because we’re in this together, be sure to take the Eff Perfect Pledge.
