Navigating relationships is never easy, but if you throw some perfectionism in the mix?
Maybe a dash of people pleasing?
Plus a little conflict avoidance on the side?
Well, now you’re talking about a bit of a minefield.
Today’s guest, Certified Sex and Relationship Therapist Caitlin Cantor, is here to help us show up messily, imperfectly, and even badly in relationships, avoid overcontrolling, and have the hard conversations we would so desperately rather sidestep.
Get ready to feel safe and seen, learn how to get your needs met, grow together with your partner, and have a satisfyingly sexy sex life.
Where do I sign up? 🙋♀️
HERE'S A SNEAK PEEK OF THE GOODNESS…
“The skills that work well for you in a lot of areas of your life are different than the ones you need for relationships.”
“It’s a partnership, not a twinship, which means two different people coming together.”
“Perfectionism is a manifestation of shame.”
“If we can’t allow ourselves to be good enough, it makes sense that we’re not going to allow someone else to be good enough.”
WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE…
How to have hard conversations, especially as a recovering perfectionist
Why control sets us up for disappointment
How we self-sabotage by “testing” our partners
Why it’s essential to create meetable expectations and needs in relationships
Getting to know our shame voice
LINKS
Catlin’s Modern Sex blog on Psychology Today
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