Is The Pressure Of Perfection Worth It?

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Let me ask you something: Is the pressure to be perfect worth the disappointment it inevitably envelopes you in?

Is the pressure to live up to other people’s expectations and standards worth the endless worrying? 

Is ‘perfect’ really what you want, or are you just aching for other people’s approval? 

Because here’s the thing - when you put the pressure on yourself to be perfect all the time, the world never gets to see who you truly are. 

There’s nothing wrong with giving something your all, or trying your best at something. But when doing your “best” turns into “it needs to be done perfect, or people won’t like/approve of me” - that’s when perfectionism sneakily creeps in and keeps us stuck.

Perfectionism is a 20-ton shield that we lug around thinking it will protect us when in fact, it is the only thing keeping us from being seen and taking flight.
— Brene Brown

Unfortunately, progress (and success) come with mistakes, missteps and yes, even failures.

It’s not the failures that end up killing our dreams, it’s the expectation of perfection that does. 

Our efforts toward something do not need to be perfect. As a matter of fact, they don’t even need to be good. Our efforts, our inspirations and dreams only need to be filled with light, love,  and magic in order to have the impact they are meant to have. 

This is my hope for you: that you are no longer so afraid to fail that it keeps you from living out your dreams, following your heart, and allowing yourself to be truly seen in this world. The world needs your imperfections, your progress, your commitment to your humanness — not the perfectly finished product. 

Un-cork your greatness and show up as the real, authentic and Imperfectly Perfect you. It's time to give yourself (and others!) permission to be truly seen. 

If you are feeling the pressure of perfectionism, here are 4 journaling questions to ask yourself: 

  1. Who would I be, and how would my life be different if I was no longer living with the pressure to be perfect all the time? How would my life shift?
  2. If failing was absolutely not an option, what would you try? What would you do? Who would you be? (hint, whatever it is DO IT!!!) 
  3. How does the pressure of perfectionism actually serve me? (although perfectionism may not feel good, our behaviors can ultimately be an attempt to keep us safe, but may also be holding us back). 
  4. Everyone has imperfections - you, me and even Oprah. How can you start to see your own imperfections and other’s as gifts in this world?

It's time to take the pressure off of ourselves, and the people in our lives, and start living authentically - imperfections and all. Join us my committing to your worthiness and take The Eff Perfect Pledge!